Responsible Parenthood and 1 Responsible Parenthood and 1 Responsible Parenthood and 1Responsible Parenthood and 1 Responsible Parenthood and 1 Responsible Parenthood and 1 Responsible Parenthood and 1 5 principles of Responsible principles of Responsible principles of Responsible principles of Responsible principles of Responsible principles of Responsible principles of Responsible Parenting!!! Parenting!!! Parenting!!! A responsible parenthood is simply defined as the "will" and ability of parents to respect and do the needs and aspirations of the family and children. It is the ability of a parent to detect the need, happiness and desire of the children and helping them to become responsible and reasonable children Basic concepts The size of a family should be decided by both parents together, based on their available resources and the standard of living they wish to achieve. Even though young people may be physically able to become parents at a very early age, being a responsible parent means waiting until the health of the mother will not be endangered by pregnancy and until both parents are emotionally mature and able to deal with the needs of a family. By waiting to get married and have children, young people can give themselves more time to pursue the things that can help to make them better partners and parents - education, employment, personal maturity, self-confidence, etc. Spacing the birth of children helps to protect the health of the mother and allows both parents more time to give each child the attention and affection he or she needs. What is responsible parenthood? Responsibility parenthood is an ability of parents to detect the need of happiness and desire of children and helping them to become responsible and responsible children. It is the shared responsibility of husband and wife to determine and achieve the desired number, spacing, and timing of their children according to their own family life aspirations, and concerns.
Responsible parenthood doesn't limit only on fulfilling the demand of
children and rearing them up properly but goes beyond that
Once we removed the pill from our marriage, my husband and I experienced
healing we did not even know we needed. This truly was a turning point in our marriage.
But after the birth of our first son, we had to trust in God another way — by postponing
pregnancy. Here comes the responsible parenthood part.
Responsible parenthood
What is responsible parenthood? It's the virtuous decision made by a married couple to either
conceive a child or postpone conception. Catholics are NOT expected to have as many children
as possible! We have learned to trust in our ability to parent our children in accordance with
God's providence. This hasn't always been easy.
I've often heard others say that my husband is "unique," for his willing participation in all this.
While I agree that Kerry is amazing and an extraordinary husband and father, I don't know that
we didn't become better spouses by our commitment to the practice of natural family planning
(NFP) and truly loving one another versus using each other.
Our passion for natural family planning grew and we became certified teachers for Couple to
Couple League (CCL). Becoming teachers wasn't the difficult part — putting ourselves out there
so intimately was. Contraception is frequently a very controversial topic, and we really aren't
controversial people. But sharing and teaching this information has felt like our penance for
blatantly disregarding the Church, for turning our back on God.
A few years ago we took a leap of faith, and we've never looked back. We dumped
contraception in favor of the knowledge handed down over the 2000+-year history of the
Catholic Church. It's been the single-most important decision of our marriage and biggest area
for growth. My prayer is for all marriages to experience as much.
What is keeping you from learning more about NFP?
The fullness of the Truth is available once you search past the secular nonsense. Here are five
steps that helped my husband and me fully embrace natural family planning.
1. Learn what the Church is teaching.
Don't take your neighbor's word, do your research! Talk to your priest. Read the Catechism
and Humane Vitae. Dive into Theology of the Body. The United States Conference of Catholic
Bishops has insightful information on their Love and Sexuality webpage as well.
2. Make a good Confession, and embrace the sacraments.
There is true beauty in the marriage of science and theology, and there are untold graces for
those taking that leap of faith.
3. Learn one of the methods.
There are multiple NFP methods that are scientifically validated and theologically backed. Go to
any of these websites for more information.
(a) Couple to Couple League
(b) Creighton Model Fertility Care
(c) Billings Ovulation Method
(d) Marquette Model NFP
4. Share the Good News, despite how uncomfortable it may feel.
Support people trying their best to follow the teachings of the Church, whether or not you have personally grasped the concepts yet. Even if you don't believe this applies to you, share God's message. You don't know who that could be and God's role for you in their life. We ALL can learn to live more chastely — clergy and religious, all married couples, those preparing for marriage, single people, and those who have passed their fertile years or undergone sterilization procedures. 5. Teach your children about NFP. The marital chastity NFP requires allows you to be a model for your children. This becomes a natural gateway for then teaching abstinence to your teenage children. Taking the "easy" way out and encouraging them to use contraceptives in the place of instilling the virtue of chastity can lead to many physical and spiritual consequences. God's will for each of us is amazing. We all are asked to make different sacrifices in His name. The graces revealed in that are innumerable. One of Blessed John Paul II's favorite sayings was "Be not afraid." Please, do not fear the unknown. (Renee McGuire, Certified Instructor, Couple to Couple League, Des Moines Chapter, essay originally posted at The Practicing The Holy Seed Church.com) Qualities of responsible parenthood: 1. Marriage should be done at the right age as right age at marriage helps to start a new life and new family in a right time. 2. The size of a family should be decided by both parents together. 3. Being responsible parents also refers to becoming parents at the right age where both of them are physically and mentally mature to start a family. 4. Proper spacing between the births of children is also necessary for health of a mother and child. This also assures that every child receives the attention and care they deserve. 6. What you do matters This is one of the most important principles Children learn from the parents
They see, observe, imitate and adapt the behavior of the parents One needs to act the same way that they want their children to be 7. You cannot be too loving Everybody loves their child But the love of parents should never spoil them In fact it's the things like leniency, material possession that spoils them Parents need to be careful on that matters 8. Be involved in your child's life It is necessary for parents to be involved in child's life in both physical way and mental way Parents needs to talk to them and also listen them carefully Patents should manage to provide at least 15 minutes of undivided attention towards children every day. 9. Adapt your parenting to fit your child Parents needs to keep the track and pace with the child's development Parents need to understand the children milestone as per the age 10. Establish and set rules Parent need to maintain and regulate the child's behavior. Strict actions and punishment may also be required. Parents can set up the rules and make children follow them. Rules can simply vary from table rules to curfew rules. 11. Foster your child's independence A responsible parent needs to teach their children self-control and encourage independence. Parents should teach them to make responsible decisions and shouldn't frequently intervene in their choices. 12. Be consistent Consistency is the key to disciplines. Rules for children shouldn't change from day to day. This makes the children confuse. Before that, the parents need to make sure that the rules made are logical and based on valid reason and are not just imposition of power. 13. Avoid harsh discipline Parents should never adopt the harsh way. They should never hit a child, under any circumstances.
This has negative impacts on child. Punishment should be mild and used carefully. 14. Explain your rules and decisions Good parents have clear expectations They communicate this to their children in clear way and explain them as per their age. 15. Treat your child with respect Children should be treated with equal respect. Their views, opinions should be listened and valued. Speak politely. Treat him kindly. This is the best way to teach them how to treat and respect others. Necessities of Responsible parenthood: a) Maintain healthy family size Responsible parenting is concerned with the maintaining the desired size of family, maintaining the spacing and having desired family size The decision is made based on the health status, social and economic concerns This will further help parents in responsibly handling the situation in the future and also prepares them to face challenge b) Support Children require the support of the parents Responsible parenting will help in building the supportive relation between children and parents Parents would be able to support their children in every steps of their life c) Morality Children learns from the parents They become what their parents are Responsible parenting is necessary to teach children the right behavior, culture the healthy habits and morals and also to guide in right direction throughout. d) Others Encouraging independent thought. It is duty of parents for better controlling over the children. Responsible parenting is also necessary to avoid the financial burden and stay prepared.
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